The Importance of Setting Down Your Grief
Katelyn Sander

The Importance of Setting Down Your Grief

Living Well...together, while apart

When you lose someone you loved dearly, or lose something that meant the world to you, I’m not sure you ever quite “get over it”. You lost something. That is permanent. And in the case of a person, it’s a huge deal. 

You learn though to put the grief down. Sometimes - especially at the beginning - the knowledge that you can pick it back up, completely intact, permits you to put it down. You are still able to - and in fact must! - fully experience happiness and joy. Experience moments where your tears are only because you are laughing so hard your sides hurt. Grief and joy are not incompatible. It’s just that it’s sometimes helpful to experience them separately. Pay careful attention to your grief and sadness. They are so real. And important. And grief can get very heavy. Just like a weight, you are strong enough to carry it around for a little while. But when it starts to feel really heavy, that’s when injuries happen. So, you need to put those heavy emotions down before you get hurt. Just like a heavy weight. Strength doesn’t come from lifting and carrying it around. The strength develops when you put the weight down, rest, and recover for a moment. When you pick it back up, that’s when you’re a little bit stronger. It’s suddenly easier to pick it up. It’s easier to put it down too.

The importance of putting down emotions doesn’t just apply to grief. 

Many of us are living in tight quarters with people we love. Sometimes our moods are quite different. Occasionally they may even seem incompatible.

If you’re the one on the happy or positive end of the spectrum, be grateful. It’s not likely you’re going to hurt yourself by carrying around your joy all the time. Joy and happiness are far lighter than grief, sorrow, anger, and frustration. The reasons to put positive emotions down have to do with acknowledging and respecting how the emotions of those you care about might be quite different. 

The thing to remember, is you can put an emotion down, and then pick it back up. Fully in tact. Whenever you want. You gain a sort of quiet confidence that allows you to slide a little to the left or the right so you can empathize, listen to, be with your child, friend, parent, partner. Join them where they are. Help and support them. Without harming yourself.

And if you’re in a horrible mood? You can set that off to the side too. Authentically share your loved one’s space, their joy, their great news. Be completely present with them. Your grumpy mood, your bad mood will still be there, completely unscathed, ready for you when you want to pick it back up. And guess what? Because you were present with your loved one and took the time to share their mood, they might do the same for you. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll start to feel a little bit better.

Today’s Inspiration

“Studies suggest that others' moods may be as easy to catch as their germs.” - Gary W. Lewandowski

Today’s Live Workout

Today is going to be a great day because we’ve got our THREE regular live workouts for you to join!


Join Adriana for your morning pick-me-up! This workout will focus on moving through a full range of motion and develop your full body control, flexibility, and usable range.

Recommended equipment: yoga block or pillow

Join Adriana at 7:30am (45 minutes) from your own living room.

Click here to join the workout.

Meeting ID: 812 2541 6617
Password: 013104


Get an amazing cardiovascular workout on an indoor bike. The workout will simulate an outdoor ride, including a mix of intervals and hills.

Recommended equipment: bike trainer

Join James at 12:00pm (45 minutes) from your own living room.

Click here to join the workout.

Meeting ID: 862 7308 7908
Password: 263088


This workout will challenge you to your max! Come out and perform the prescribed workout for the day. This workout utilizes all your skills, from coordination to endurance and strength. No equipment necessary, you’ll just need your body weight!

Join Garth today at 12:00pm (35 minutes) from your own living room.

Click here to join the workout.

Meeting ID: 842 2984 9491
Password: 510345


Click here to view this week’s schedule.

To learn more about our virtual live workouts, please reach out to Lauren directly.

Today’s Trainer Moves

So, we’ve covered that putting your emotions down can make you stronger… well… working on your mobility can make you stronger too! Join Meg for a full body strength workout that focuses on mobility just as much as muscle pump!

For questions about today’s Trainer Moves you can connect directly with Meg here.

Featured Event

Joining the Virtual Ride for Rehab, in support of the Toronto Rehab Foundation – a global leader in physical rehab, and home to the world’s top research centre in this field, is so easy.
Do you need a bike so you can ride along? Nope.

Do you even have to leave your house? Not this time.

Which activities can count towards my “mileage”? Anything! Seriously…walking, wheeling, swimming, spinning, running, dancing, skating, snowshoeing, skiing, steps around the house,…it ALL counts.
Participants will be asked to log your distance throughout the week, and our collective progress will be tracked, allowing us to virtually travel from coast to coast together.

Additionally, for your $25 registration fee, you'll gain access to free daily classes (where you’ll earn additional “mileage” to be added to your daily distance), including these classes led by our team:

  • Total Body Conditioning with Kim (on Saturday, February 20th)
  • Pilates Matwork with Marvin (on Monday, February 22nd)
  • On Core with Garth (on Thursday, February 24th)

Come and join us, as we help to raise $250,000 in support of the Toronto Rehab Foundation!

DATES: February 20th – 27th
COST: $25 to participate

Today’s Bite

Curry Tofu Salad

Here’s a versatile little salad, made with all kinds of deliciousness, while being vegan and gluten-free adaptable. Serve it in a wrap, spooned over avocado, mounded over greens, or all three, for three different lunches!

Apples, cashews, and celery give it good crunchy texture. Cilantro and curry powder give it flavour. Vegan mayo adds a delicious creaminess. Golden raisins give it sweetness. The tofu is seared, holding its shape well, so it’s not mushy. 

All-in-all, a delicious combination of textures and flavours.


  • 8 oz tofu- extra firm or sprouted tofu, cut into ½ - 3/4 inch cubes
  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • 1/4 tsp salt and pinch pepper
  • 1/4 cup cashews, chopped
  • 1/4 cup golden raisins
  • 1/2 cup celery, chopped (or sub more apple)
  • 1/4 cup red onion, finely diced (or sub green onion)
  • 1/2 cup apple, diced (or sub more celery)
  • 1/4 cup cilantro, chopped (or sub Italian parsley)
  • 1/4 – 1/2 tsp cayenne pepper
  • 2 - 3 tsp curry powder (start with two, add more to taste)
  • 2 - 3 tbsp vegan mayo
  • 1 tbsp honey (or agave, or alternative sweetener)
  • 1 tbsp apple cider vinegar
  • Salt and pepper, to taste

Serving options:

  • Wrap up in a whole wheat tortilla (or pita) with handful of greens or sprouts.
  • Serve over a bed of greens lightly dressed with olive oil, salt, and lemon or apple cider vinegar.
  • Serve in halved, salted, avocado.


  • With paper towel in hand, blot and press the water out of the tofu. Cut it into small cubes and gently blot again.
  • In a large skillet heat oil over medium heat. Add the salt and pepper to the oil then add tofu. Sear on all sides until deeply golden, using a metal spatula to turn, repeatedly.  Once most sides are golden place in a medium bowl.
  • Add raisins, onions, apple, celery, cashews, cilantro, and give a stir.
  • Add spices, vegan mayo, honey (or agave), vinegar.
  • Taste, season with salt and pepper, and adjust heat if you want to make it spicier.
  • Make wraps or stuff into pitas with a handful of greens, or stuff avocados (season avocado with salt first), or served over a bed of lightly dressing greens (arugula, spinach, salad greens).


Do you have a “Something of the Day” you’d like us to share?! Email Meg.

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